Thursday, June 6, 2013

Fear Aims High

If you're dealing with fear right now . . .

Smile! You’re in good company!

You would think that the people at risk for fear and self-pity have a history of failure. You’d think they come from broken homes, have major weight problems, or are clumsy and unintelligent. You’d think they’re the mess-ups and the klutzes. The ones everyone sees as failures.

Think again.

No. Fear picks on the straight-A students. The guys who could be GQ models. The girls who always look like they have it all together. The moms with kids on the honor roll and a successful home business.

It's the writers who actually have the skill and talent to have a successful blog who think, Who am I kidding? I can't write.

It's the girls who have a naturally beautiful figure who think, No man will ever want what I've got.

It's the college grad who has a 4.0 and stellar recommendations who thinks, My future will be a failure and I’ll never get a job.

And it's the woman with a happy life, a promising future, and a man who is desperately in love with her who thinks, I'll never be able to be a good wife.

Fear aims high.

Fear doesn't need to cripple those who aren't going anywhere. They're already not going anywhere. It's the ones who have the greatest potential that fear makes its targets. It’s the ones who might actually get to the chocolate cake that fear intercepts with its enticing offer: The Self-Pity Waterslide.

If you never hear the voice of fear, maybe it’s because you’re not going anywhere. Just a thought.

But if you’re like most of us, you hear it loud and clear. And if you’re like some of us, you may have turned up the volume and settled in for a good listen.

Fear’s noisy voice might not ever go completely away, but I’d like to invite you to grab some noise-cancelling headphones and listen to something else.

What if you took the great things people say about you and, for once, you let them sink in? You don't need to let them go to your head, but certainly, you should let them go to your heart. Bask in the truths others share with you. Even join in and compliment yourself on something you're good at. Focus on your strengths!

Yes, I know, you have to guard against pride. But face it—ignoring compliments and stubbornly clinging to an “I stink and you can’t tell me otherwise” view of yourself IS a form of pride. It's saying that your opinion is the only one that matters.

So unless you already have an ego the size of Tony Stark's, the least you have to worry about is getting a big head from this exercise.

Put on your headphones.

Remember your cheerleaders' words.

Listen to the voice of truth.

God is telling you through his word, this blog post, and through your friends, your family, and maybe even random strangers:

“You CAN. You’re not alone." 

And most of all: "You. Are. Loved.”

What's your #1 way to beat fear? I'd love to hear about it! Leave me a comment below, or join the conversation on Facebook!

Or if you want to simply be an encouragement to others struggling with fear, let them know they're not alone. Leave a comment saying "Hi, I'm _____, I'm a successful ____, and I'm fighting to overcome fear." 
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thes. 5:11

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