Friday, June 21, 2013

Things Never Happen the Same Way Twice

Often, we have two fears about the future:

  • That something horrible we’ve been through before will happen again. (“It’s going to be just like last time!”)  
  • That something wonderful we’ve experienced will never happen again. (“It will never be the same!”)
If we actually stopped to think about it more often, we’d realize we’re trying to have our chocolate cake and eat it too!

In the Chronicles of Narnia: Prince Caspian (see a clip below!), Lucy seems disappointed as she asks Aslan, “Why couldn’t you come roaring in to save us like last time?”

Aslan responds with the wisest of words: “Things never happen the same way twice, dear one.”

My family quotes Aslan more than probably any other book/movie character ever. Often times, I’ll recall this quote as comfort when something doesn’t happen the way I expected it to.

I was hoping it would be just like last year’s vacation.

I thought I’d get through this semester easily . . . like last time!

Then I remember Aslan. Things never happen the same way twice. It’s ok. That’s just how life works.

But the other day as I was bike riding with my family, I realized that it’s not just a comforting phrase. It’s a promise.

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Fear Aims High

If you're dealing with fear right now . . .

Smile! You’re in good company!

You would think that the people at risk for fear and self-pity have a history of failure. You’d think they come from broken homes, have major weight problems, or are clumsy and unintelligent. You’d think they’re the mess-ups and the klutzes. The ones everyone sees as failures.

Think again.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Keep Calm and Stop, Look, and Listen

In my last post, I talked about why you should Get Off the Self-Pity Waterslide. It’s one of the tools fear uses to incapacitate some of the best and brightest. I also said you could stop, look, and listen to avoid the clutches of fear and self pity.

It’s easy to quit trying. It’s easy to listen to the voices that say "You can’t." If you believe you can’t, you don’t feel guilty if you stop trying.

I'm your voice of reason saying, "PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN! The buck stops here!"


Stop believing the voice of fear. He’s wrong. (I.e.. There IS chocolate cake, and you CAN make it to the top of the stairs. See THIS post if you’re confused.) The second you let him start his sales pitch, he’s got you like the lotion ladies at the mall kiosk. Walk the other way and don’t let him into your head!

Monday, June 3, 2013

Saturday, June 1, 2013

Get Off the Self-Pity Waterslide!

This is my second post about fear and its tricks and traps to mess with your head! You can read the first post HERE. And now, our feature blog-entation. :)

My good friend Jon Acuff (okay, so he's not my friend, but I wish he was, and his book Start has helped me a lot . . . so let's just call him my friend) writes about critic's math. It's simple:

1000 compliments + 1 insult = 1 insult

Because, you see, no matter how awesome we are at something, one little insult, criticism, or hint of negativity sends us barreling down the self-pity waterslide.

Why a waterslide? You ask.

Because self-pity takes you downhill fast on a slippery slope, it is really hard to stop once you start, and worst of all: you secretly enjoy it.